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“How to Transcend a Happy Marriage” Shocks & Titillates, at Custom Made, S.F.

“How to Transcend a Happy Marriage” Shocks & Titillates, at Custom Made, S.F.

January 25, 2020 Robert M. Gardner

Sarah Ruhl Exposes the Comedy of Polyamory

by Robert M. Gardner

“How to Transcend a Happy Marriage” speaks to the intelligent theatergoer with incisive and witty dialogue, and erudite references to Ancient Greek myths Yet, the play could be called simply: “All You Want to Know about Polyamory but Were Afraid to Ask.”

Ruhl’s play sails into San Francisco to shock a jaded public which has already seen many sexual revolutions. “Marriage” is thoughtful and stimulating while being hilariously funny— perfect for a night of Bay Area theater.

Polyamory, a topic once considered taboo, is now more acceptable. The story dramatizes the sexual awakening of two self-satisfied, middle-aged couples: Paul and George (Matt Weimer & Karen Offereins), Michael and Jane (Malcolm Rodgers & Hilary Hesse).  As Jane, Hesse gossips hilariously about Pip, a temp in her office, who lives with two guys. Jane also reveals that Pip hunts and kills her own meat, “ethically.” Jane sure knows how to dish the ‘dirt.’

Hillary Hesse, Malcolm Rodgers, Kaen Offereins, Matt Weimer. Photos by Jay Yamada

The smug couples want to know more about Pip’s threesome. They are curious how this “love triangle” works, so they invite all three to a New Year’s Eve party.

Despite an initial awkwardness between the couples and their guests, Pip (irrepressible Fenner) excites the couples by cleverly fielding questions about her sexual threesome.  Paul’s awkwardness disappears when supple David (eager, funny Nick Trengove) uses Phythagoras to woo him in ‘superior’ tones.

Nick Trengove, Louel Senores, and Fenner: The Love Triangle

David’s fascination with math and triangles excites straight-laced Paul who is thrilled to find an intellectual and sexual kindred spirit. They mix philosophy and eroticism, showing that intelligence can be sexy.

We are fascinated by the couples’ insecurities and fantasies, which they have never shared. Pip’s other lover, Freddie (spacy Louel Senores) brings marijuana brownies that lead to a wild orgy for all seven lovers.

Things heat up when Pip leads an impromptu karaoke session, singing “She’ll Be Coming Around the Mountain.”  The song quickly turns raunchy when she slows down the rhythm and gyrates seductively—adding sexual meaning to “coming.” Pip does a pole dance–using Jane as her pole.

Hilary Heese, Fenner, Matt Weimer. The Pole Dance

The New Year’s party/orgy ends abruptly when they are interrupted by Jane and Michael’s 16-year-old daughter Jenna (feisty Celeste Kamiya). The teenager is aghast to see her parents and their best friends engaging in wild sex. Hiding behind the sofa, their shame contrasts with their initial euphoria. Comically, the teenage daughter becomes the scolding grown-up.

George (talented Offereins) repeatedly invites us into the discussion by breaking the fourth wall. She makes it clear that she’s in search of adventure, but fears destroying her good marriage.

Wonderful performances by all eight actors under the able direction of Adam L. Sussman.  I am impressed by Offereins and Fenner, as George and Pip. The ending is perhaps too neat, but Sarah Ruhl has given us an excellent, enjoyable comedy, which I highly recommend.

Matt Weimer, Fenner, Nick Trengove

“How to Transcend a Happy Marriage”  by Sarah Ruhl,  directed by Adam L.  Sussman, at Custom Made Theatre, San Francisco, through Sunday, February 9, 2020.
Info: custommade.org

Cast: Fenner, Hilary Hesse, Celeste Kamiya, Karen Offereins, Malcolm Rodgers, Nick Trengove, Louel Senores, and Matt Weimer.

Banner photo: Malcolm Rodgers, Hilary Hesse, Karen Offereins, and Matt Weimer.


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